Lilli Revere

If you were to die today, would you be happy with the way you’ve lived your life? There may be an area of your life that you’re unhappy with and lack the tools to change. Or you may have found joy, pleasure and satisfaction in many of life pursuits – relationships, education, financial, spiritual – but still feel that something is missing.

More and more people are restless and sick and tired of the status quo. Every human being has the desire to live a life of significance, and has a hunger for purpose and meaning. If you missed discovering or living out your God-given purpose, you might benefit from the assistance of a Christian Life Coach.

“A Christian Life Coach will help you identify your most deeply held core values, passions, spiritual gifts, inner strengths and dreams, believing they are all God-given, and move a client in a coaching relationship from where they are to where they discover God wants them to be,” says Susie Wilson, a PCCA Certified Christian Life Coach of Live Your Joy. “This differs from a Life Coach, who takes a client from where they are to where they want to be.” Both coaches help a client create an action plan, set goals, hold them accountable and manage obstacles, but a Christian Life Coach will ask questions that point to God and in the process bring about a self-awareness that can help a client create a vision of their life purpose, or to change a particular area of their life.

“People who have a desire to grow and change would use a Christian Life Coach,” says Susie Wilson. “Some people feel stuck in their situation but don’t know where to begin or how to make a change; they are unsure of what they want and in some cases they may not think they deserve better or that a better situation is even possible. They struggle to figure it out on their own. Sometimes just the encouragement and direction a Christian Life Coach offers, to seek God’s will for their life, brings tremendous relief to the client and the freedom to move forward.”

The coaching helps people clarify what the issue is and gets to the root of problem, not to make changes for the sake of making a change such as changing jobs. And it teaches clients to measure their choices and decisions against their core values for greater fulfillment and lasting change.

“Life Coaching is often sought in midlife, a time when many of us are evaluating the life we’ve lived so far and thinking about priorities, regrets, unfulfilled dreams, leaving a legacy, and making a difference,” says Susie Wilson. “Christian Life Coaching in this season of life focuses on aligning our view of success, significance, and security with God’s perspective and creating a future vision that allows us to find our identify in Christ seeking His will for the balance of our life.”

Christian Life Coaches undertake a rigorous training course whereby they fully examine themselves and every aspect of their own lives before they are certified to help others make a change in an area of life that they haven’t been able to do on their own. Coaches develop a niche, i.e., career development, life balance, family relationships, spiritual growth, transitions, decision-making, life purpose, life-style management and more. Susie Wilson teaches women to claim God’s best for themselves and their relationships.

Live Your Joy’s Coaching Agreement states, “The coaching relationship is grounded in the belief that the client is naturally creative, resourceful, and whole; the coach’s role is to ask questions and invite discovery of answers the client already possesses. In this partnership, the agenda comes from the client, the exploration is guided by the coach, and the power in the relationship is given to the Holy Spirit.”

While the coaching program is not an assessment of skills, it sometimes uses assessment tools to get to a person’s core values. Visioning exercises are commonly used during the coaching sessions for discovery, and writing assignments or tasks may be given to the client to work on in-between sessions before an action plan has been defined. Once an action plan of clearly defined steps and measurable goals has been created, the coach will help the client meet them and overcome obstacles.

To engage the services of a Christian Life Coach couldn’t get any easier, as all coaching is done by telephone at a mutually-convenient time. This minimizes distractions and allows the coach to “listen” to someone’s values. Generally, four to five sessions, one time a week, is all that is needed to clarify the issue, create a vision, develop an action plan, hold the client accountable and put skills to work. Each coaching sessions last for 50 minutes, and the appointment time is strictly adhered to.

The initial session is considered a consultation and there is no fee. Subsequent individual sessions run approximately $75 each, with several packages to choose from, and are pre-paid.

You can find a Christian Life Coach that can address your need by entering a few key words such as, “life balance, life coach, Christian life coach, etc.” into a search engine. Several websites will come up for you to explore.

There are many self-help tools available to the person who is seriously seeking to identify their strengths, values, spiritual gifts, and purpose. The following books are excellent resources to help you explore these abilities:

  • S.H.A.P.E. written by Erik Rees will help you find and fulfill your unique purpose for life. The S.H.A.P.E. (Spiritual Gifts, Heart, Abilities, Personality, Experience) program is an excellent tool to evaluate your spiritual gifts and discover your ministry.
  • The Purpose-Driven Life by Rick Warren helps you identify God’s purpose for creating you and his plan for you.
  • Live Like You Mean It by T. J. Addington helps you to clarify your purpose, to live intentionally and to make the most of the rest of your life.
  • A Life That Matters by Ron Hutchcraft addresses the question, “What is it that you are missing?” and steers you into “making the greatest possible difference with the rest of your life.”

While people can make changes on their own, what sets coaching apart from self-help is the accountability. Without accountability and help managing distractions, obstacles and setbacks, people often give up or only make temporary rather than lasting changes. The coach presses the client toward the goal.

Everyone born has a God-given purpose. When Jesus came to this earth, his purpose was to seek and to save those that are lost. He came that we might have life and to have it more abundantly. Everything Jesus said and did was geared toward his purpose.
Moses’ purpose was to be a rescuer of the Israelites. Esther became queen to save the Jews from annihilation. The Apostle Paul’s purpose was to preach the Good News to the Gentiles.

Imagine how our world could be transformed if we all followed the Apostle Paul’s example: “I don’t mean to say I am perfect. I haven’t learned all I should even yet, but I keep working toward the day when I will finally be all that Christ saved me for and wants me to be. ……. I am still not all I should be, but I am bringing all my energies to bear on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I strain to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God through Christ Jesus is calling us.” (Philippians 3:12-14) Now that’s living and serving with passionate purpose!

Lil Revere has been a student of God’s Word since she first came to know Him as her Lord and Savior at the age of 12. She is a small group facilitator, Bible Study leader, speaker and writer and has a passion for discipling believers to maturity. She lives in Ramsey, New Jersey with her husband of 37 years and is a mother of three grown children and grandmother of three grandchildren.